Boyfriend still has a dating profile

And since the gentleman I am dating has not mentioned it, I do not want to limit my options for fear that he is dating many different people.Rest assured, though, in my case as long as I see his active I will continue to be active.The best way to see this clearer is to flip the situation over. She’ll either think that’s sweet and offer to remove her profile, or she’ll remind you that you’re just “seeing each other” and that she’s not ready to be exclusive. I did this three years ago and it worked perfectly. Which is why I reassured her that she didn’t have to remove her profile. And if she wanted to go out with twenty other JDate guys before taking her profile down, she could.If some girl is into you, but you’re not into her, you’re gonna keep browsing online. However, if she refuses to be Miss Right Now and makes it clear that she’ll accept nothing less than a commitment, that’s okay. As far as I was concerned, going on a bunch of dates would only reinforce why she should be exclusive with me. Now if you take down your profile and she say anything, you might want to step up your efforts to see her more. The good thing is that there’s no downside to pushing things forward.How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…

Something in me made me curious and I looked at your Match profile and saw you’d logged on recently after we said we’d be exclusive. I’m not here to ‘catch you’ or worry about what you may or may not be up to…Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.Again, I don’t think it makes you bad, but I have to look out for myself. So if you do want an exclusive relationship with me, let’s go all the way. And if you do want it, let’s clear the slate and commit to that.” Now…ve been seeing this girl I met online for about two months.Things are going well and I want to be her boyfriend, but I still notice her logging into the dating site where we met.If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…when we talked a little while ago, you said we’re exclusive… ” (I would listen for if their answer is a clear “yes” or if it’s some vague, weird, wishy-washy response…My suggestion would be for you to let her know where your head is at.Too, I have many friends who will follow in my same footsteps and wait for the man to take the lead.

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