Dating a vulnerable woman
I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.There were things that he expected with his party lifestyle that I felt very uncomfortable with, but would ignore my instinct and go along with to make him happy.My cousin actually said, "Forty-five is the new 30!" My mother was less OK with it, but I expected that. Woman D: My family, especially my father, were very much against the relationship. My friends thought it was "gross" and it took them nearly all four years of college to warm up to my boyfriend. The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity.
Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.
I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.
What did/do you friends and family think of your relationship? A couple of my friends have similar stories about dating older men: they chose the person and not the age group. Woman C: My friends were much calmer than I thought they would be — a couple said they always thought I would end up with an older man.
My theory is that the two are linked and that the age difference facilitates a dom/sub dynamic.
Woman B: I think I've always been attracted to people older than me. There is a particular immaturity connected to the hookup culture which I just have no time for. I've found that most guys my age have trouble dealing with strong-willed, smart-mouthed girls, even though we are supposed to live in an age of feminism and all.