Dating while going through divorce tennessee
What are some of the things that I should look for and/or expect to see that he is making a change? What steps have both of you taken to help save your marriage besides living apart? There is nothing wrong with wanting a "new" marriage. Neither one of us want to go back to that marriage.
Think ours is "too little too late" but you need to do what feels "right for you!
He has much more invested in me than a fantasy -- 7 years and 3 kids. If he does not do it, it will be on him this time -- instead of me putting forth all the effort.
I am flat out tired of working so damn hard in the marriage and it seems to be a walk in the park for him.
Make sure you take this time to work on yourself as well. I am going to counseling, but I don't want to offer it to him. I want to see him make the steps in the right direction and continue in them. I don't have any suggestions for you, just sympathy. He has peace and calm all the time and can't do 4 days...
I don't want to Prince Charming, but I do want a man that values me for who I am. I am not sure if I can get a "new" marriage with him to be honest. I just want him to show responsiblity and effort for the place that we are in.
Ya' know I really want to TELL him what I want, but I have been telling him for years.
If he has any clue and really wants this relationship to work, he is going to have to step his part up big time.
Even though things seemed good for a moment, I decided that it was too soon for him to move back in the house. A long time ago I heard that relationships are like a pie. Go with your "gut" and be open and honest with him and see where it leads you.BUT I don't want to go through the drama or be played for a fool anymore.There is a huge side of me that is scared because I have been so disappointed in this marriage.However, if you expect your H to turn into Prince Charming and be your knight in shining armor I am sorry but that is unrealistic. Don't get me wrong, he has done his part, but I am looking at myself too. I am going through it now and I am as indecisive as you are.If you love your H, take things slow and do whatever you can to work through this. If I want him to be better, I want to be better for him too. Then I think if he ever makes that it may still be a lost cause. nice living on his own that he can handle out house with 3 kids one of them having autism. I've said the exact same things as you to my therapist. Please tell me what happened after your separation.Children of any age are traumatized enough by the separation of their parents.I know that a lot of my clients say, ‘But my kids are older and they understand about sex.Don't get me wrong there is a big side of me that wants to tell him, but I don't want to make it too easy for him. IMO 2 weeks isn't long enough for someone to change their life for good, especially if the behaviors that caused the split have been going on for years. My H and I have been separated for almost 2 months and while it's been hard, I know that if we are serious about changing some of our behaviors and it is going to take time. I've been going to C by myself and he has expressed interest in possibily joining me.If he ever comes back home, he will have to put his heart, time and effort to make the relationship continue to work. What steps have both of you taken to help save your marriage besides living apart? There is nothing wrong with wanting a "new" marriage. Neither one of us want to go back to that marriage. Treat me as someone that he wants to take it to the "next level" with (i.e. I really want to feel like he adores me and I am the most important thing in the world to him (besides our kids). I want a brand new marriage WITH him since I have had so many personal revelations and so has he, but I am afraid I will be kicked in the stomach and disappointed once again if we ever even tried. Being romantic (gestures, dates, I love you's for reason, card/gift for no reason). Does it ever come back with a person that you have had marital problems with? I understand that I am older and wiser than I was when I got married, and I don't want to be unrealistic. He says that too much has happened over the last 22 years, and I agree.