Father son dating
Try not to judge or psychoanalyze him — that means don’t mention your theory about a father figure.It’s fine to explain that you don’t understand the relationship and even that it worries you. With your husband (and Tim’s father) gone only three years, I can only imagine you’re both still grieving.I don’t know whether he’ll turn out to be a catch or a cad, but at least he’ll know the kind of mama bear he’s dealing with. E-mail questions to Steven at [email protected](unfortunately not all questions can be answered).You can also reach Steven on Facebook at facebook.com/stevenpetrow and on Twitter @stevenpetrow. Have a talk with Tim, adult to adult (and he is an adult, even if he’s still your baby).If you approach it like a mama bear trying to save her cub, you risk pushing him further into his boyfriend’s arms.
I took your question to my Facebook page, where reactions were pretty much equally divided.
Many agreed with you and found your son’s relationship objectionable.
One gay man spoke for many when he posted: “I find middle-aged men who date teens of either gender to be emotionally stunted and chock-full of control issues.” Others volunteered their personal stories, often with happy endings.
Civilities is a new column in The Washington Post covering LGBT and straight etiquette.
Dear Civilities: My 19-year-old son (I’ll call him “Tim”) just came out to me.